First Love and First Kiss — 30 Days Writing Challenge
Actually, today’s challenge had me a little awkward on how I would write about it. First love and first kiss. What a topic, eh?
Admit it, we all have experienced a tingling feeling called love. There’s always one person that make your heart pounder and your stomach filled with butterflies. Out of sudden your body felt weak but your soul was stronger than ever, your logic thoughts disappear and yet you wished this crazy feeling last forever.
The basic question would be, what is first love anyway? Merriam-webster stated that first love is the first person one loves in a romantic way. Hm, okay, but for me, first love doesn’t necessarily means the first person who shared a romantic gesture because sometimes it only based on likeness, not love. If it makes you see their flaws yet you accept and complete them, that’s love. Thus it’s kinda hard to cut the line and stated that “Yeah, he was my first love.”
Personally I discovered my first love during high school. The time when love was in the air for sure. Love got more complicated yet exciting throughout this time. He was my schoolmate, we know each other because he’s a best friend of my best friend’s boyfriend and we happened to be in a same organization and that was how we got closer. The relationship was perfect like unicorn and sparkles combined during high school, but it was a damn roller coaster ride after that.
Although most of the time first love doesn’t mean to be the last, first love experience is always special. Then why is it so special?
- It Only Happens Once
First love usually happens in our teens or very early in adulthood. So it’s very special because it’s a first and innocence. We don’t bring the baggage of past experiences with us. We haven’t been crushed yet, so we don’t bring those negative experiences into the relationship. April Masini of AskApril.com, relationship expert and author of four relationship advice books, explains, “Like most firsts, it will hold a place in your personal history. It marks the beginning of your articulation of romantic feelings. To be able to feel and show love is a big deal. Love is a catalyst for war, business and relationships. It shouldn’t be underestimated!”
2. We Can’t Fight The Feelings
Emotionally, first love magnetism is also inescapable, according to Diana Raab, Ph.D., contributor to Psychology Today and The Huffington Post, “First loves are alluring because their magic defies duplication. Before our first love, our hearts are a blank slate. Afterwards, they are inscribed with great memories, and those feelings are not easily purged.”
3. It’s a Lesson That Changes You Forever
First love will shape how we view love for the rest of our life. Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., (aka “Dr. Romance”) psychotherapist and author ofLove Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences, agrees, “First love sets the pattern for all loves to follow. We always thrill to physical looks that are similar to the first love, even when we wind up in a better relationship with someone who looks different.”
Whether it lasts or not, first love will always be memorable and undeniable. From my own experience of first love, I learned that love is not always rainbows and butterflies. I learned that love was sacrificing, love was understanding, love was compromising, love was putting your ego aside, and love was letting go for the best of both. I like the fact that my first love is a lesson. He was the first person I had emotional attachment with, and I think he deserved to be called as my first love.
What about first kiss? it’s off limit lol
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