What’s So Important About Relationship? — 30 Days Writing Challenge

I supposed to write about my current relationship on today’s challenge. But I’m not sure if I’m comfortable enough to share my personal life because it’s complicated hehehe. But I guess I’ll give it a try.

Relationship ; the way in which two things are connected.

It’s the definition of relationship based on Cambridge dictionary, but the idea of relationship we know nowadays is most likely about status and romantic affairs. Why do people always think that relationship is about love? love and relationship are actually two different things but totally depends upon each other.

The concept of ‘relationship’ is actually broad and varies from person to person. Personally, I believe that relationship refer to close connection between people with agreement that they will always committed on how they will be involved in each others’ lives. It could be between spouse, family, friends, or basically everyone. While love is an emotions on how we feel about someone. Then how do they depend on each other? Relationship is formed by emotional bonds such as love with mutual agreement to compromise for each other. Sometimes it might led to a new way of thinking: as a love that requires certain prerequisites, but it’s actually not.

The thing is, we could be in love but not be in a relationship with the person, or we could be in a relationship without being in love. I’ve been in both positions though. The last time I was on long term commitment with someone, I learned that love and mutual agreement is not enough to form a relationship, a healthy one. Being in relationship require more than agreement to pure emotion or lofty passions. We need to understand that there are things more important in our lives and our relationships than simply being in love. And the success of our relationships hinges on these deeper and more important values.

Relationship isn’t about sharing emotions and agreeing about something with the same perspective. It’s about willingness to sharing the differences and agreeing on it upon each other. If the relationship can’t go this way, you’re not in a real relationship yet. Even though you’ve been together for no matter how long it takes, it’s always better to step aside your ego and think about what is the best for both. If ended a relationship is the answer, I’m sure it is going to be hard at first, but you’ll be thankful later. Time heals you know? being single is not a sin.

When the time is right, you’ll meet someone even though it’ll take time for both of you to be ready for commitment; the new relationship. But I guess, to be in love without a relationship could also makes you value things and realize why it didn’t work with anyone else on previous relationship.

What about me? For now it’s hard for me to describe mine, but:
Being in love is not always have to be in a relationship.
Being in love is about attaching my soul and accepting his differences.
Being in love means understanding his pain even if he doesn’t share it.
Being in love means looking at him selflessly in the eyes.
Being in love means always standing by his side in all his good and bad times.
Being in love means dreaming of a future with him although I know there is a possibility for us not being together.

Well, que sera, sera they say.. whatever will be, will be..

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